Can you stand on your own?

Are you the girl that waits around all day long for a text message from that certain someone before you can have a good day? Are you so dependent on other people that you forget how to help yourself? Then it is time you learn a thing or 2 about self reliance.

What is Self Reliance?

Self Reliance is a strong belief in your own capability to achieve success and happiness. It is having the courage to act by yourself instead of letting other people and events decide what you should do.

The Importance of Self Reliance

Stop giving other people control of your life. You will never find happiness that way. What happens when you never get that text message or call? Your whole day is ruined, am I right? What happens when that person you are always turning to for help isn’t there when you need them? You feel helpless. Don’t misunderstand me- Getting help is OK, we all need help and advice sometimes, but when you become solely dependent on someone else you forget how to help yourself. And girls, let me tell you, no guy wants a clingy helpless chick. Com’on you are better than that. Also, when things are going good, you see the person you are leaning on as responsible for your happiness; however, if things get bad, you begin to blame that person. Being self reliant means taking responsibility for your own happiness AND failures.

Becoming Self Reliant

1. Realize the need to gain personal power so that you can steer your life in the direction you want.
2. Cut the strings of dependency and stand on your own two feet. (warning: this isn’t easy)
3. Trust yourself and listen to your own instincts.
4. Do not depend on other sources of funds, work!
5. And my favorite- Be an individual! Do not conform to the world. As a self reliant person, you know to rely on your own strengths, your own dreams and your own interests. BE YOU.

Now go out in the world fearless. Stand on your own, but don’t be surprised if you fall. This gives you a chance to pick yourself up, dust yourself off and stand again. I promise you will get stronger, and it will get easier.

I highly recommend reading Self-Reliance by Ralph Waldo Emerson for further reading.