As in any relationship, communication is key to making this thing work. The only difference between a long distance relationship and getting to hold hands whenever you want is the fact that ALL you have is COMMUNICATION. And you have plenty of time to get it right. And getting it right is key to staying in this long distance relationship.
Pros:
You learn a lot about each other….fast.
You don’t ever have to worry about whether or not they really like your personality.
You learn a lot about yourself.
You learn how to fight fair.
- You can’t kiss and make up here people so you need to be fair.
You learn how to say sorry. And you learn how to mean it.
You know his tone…..you know it so well that you know when something is wrong before he even calls. (weird, I know)
You can’t leave.
You can’t slam the door.
You have tons to talk about at the end of the day because you get to recap your whole day.
Cons:
You can’t kiss and make up.
You can’t see their face and they can’t see yours.
You feel distant when things become frustrated because you ARE distant.
If your love language is physical touch, you sometimes feel like you aren’t communicating at all.
You can’t hold hands when saying something that is hard to hear….so it’s just hard to hear.
You can’t hug it out.
You can’t leave.
You can’t slam the door.
You have to recap your WHOLE day.
It’s never as funny because “you just had to be there.” (Ouch)
So what do you do when there are more Cons than Pros. You do the only thing that you can…..you talk it out…...again.
Tell me how frustrated you feel right now……yeah, me too. I’ll be honest with you….my love language is physical touch and I’m in love with someone who needs words of affirmation. Let the frustration begin! I think God knew that I would never get this thing right if he was sitting next to me on the couch everyday, so He has given me plenty of time to figure out how to COMMUNICATE my love to him and how to appreciate his words of love in return. So would I rather hold hands and kiss? Would I rather sit and be quiet at the end of the day when I’m exhausted and just want to watch TV? Would I rather cuddle and fall asleep with the man of my dreams than lay on a phone? Yeah maybe I would….but I would rather get a text or hear “I love you” on the phone ANY DAY as long as it came from him. Mushy? Yes. Frustrating? Yes. Worth it? ABSOLUTELY!
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